Recently my adopted daughter’s problems with food seem more out of control than ever. Within the last few weeks she has broken a stool trying to sneak into the pantry, ate homemade foot scrub, and drunk a whole gallon of apple juice in the middle of the night. She is a beautiful and very smart six year old. She has been with us for almost two years now but her adoption was only finalized a few months ago.
I have read many blogs and they all seem to suggest that restricting food can make matters worse. Many of these children have been deprived food or only fed a diet of convenience foods. I have also read that many have food issues because it is the one thing they can control. Here are a few resources I have found on the subject.
Many of these children are not accustomed to homemade meals or healthy foods.
My husband and I have chosen not to restrict food during daytime hours. I allow my children to take a water full bottle in their rooms at night so that they may have a drink when they need it. Sadly, if we don’t lock the refrigerator in the middle of the night she will eat as much of the contents as possible. Due to the fact that we have other children who need to eat too and I don’t have an unlimited grocery budget, I am forced to lock everything up at night.
I understand that the experts suggest that not allowing 24/7 access to everything can even make matters worse. I also do not like the idea of children creeping around the house at night while I’m asleep. All of this is very daunting to say the least. I did not see many other options until this morning.
We were dealing with another food sneaking attempt and my husband reminded me of something. He reminded me that we cannot solve spiritual problems with carnal fixes. I do believe that these issues go beyond the surface and the emotional trauma has opened the door for spiritual attack on these children. Thus, my other option, spiritual warfare. I always pray for and over my children. I just think it is time to amp it up a bit. The Bible tells us that somethings are only solved through fasting and prayer. I am going to seek God and trust Him to do what I have been unable to do. All of my attempts have failed. I realize that I must lean on the Holy Spirit in every area of my life.
Please know that you are not alone. There are real moms that are facing similar issues. Keep praying and keep trusting. God has a plan for your child/children.